It’s often tempting to ask the cards a question about what someone is thinking or how to make a person act in a certain way. You might want to hold on and rethink what you’re asking. In my training, questions that invade a person’s psychic space don’t pass the ethical test. Examples are: Is she planning to [fire me, give me a raise, ask me out]? How does she feel about [me, my proposal, my budget, etc.]? How can I get him to [like me, help me, etc.]?
Do you get it? If you’re wiggling into their hearts or minds it’s not ethical. Why? Because everyone has a right to privacy. Besides, the answers would be out of context.
Here’s a better way to ask those questions: What can I do to be prepared for what she plans? What is my best course of action to project a positive image to her? How can I best present my proposal? What is my best course of action to develop a positive relationship?
Below is sample layout answering a question about a work relationship that troubled me. I asked the question, “What can I do to make this relationship positive for me and the business.” Notice I’m not asking what I can do to make the person act or think in a particular way. The focus is on what I can do.
Card 1: Hanged Man (R), represents the nature of the relationship at this point. The reversed card implies a block and/or an internal process. The card confirms that the relationship is coming to an end in its current state. It’s time for a new perspective and when the timing is right I can be ready to act.
Card 2: 5 of Fire, represents me in the relationship. This card is about the struggle I have with my own identity and the role of the other person in the relationship.
Card 3: 2 of Fire, represents the other person from my perspective (because I won’t go into his/her psychic space). Twos are about striving for balance between opposite poles. In the case of Fire it’s about balancing creativity, spirit, and identity. The cards show that the two of us may be creatively out of balance.
Card 4: Devil (R), represents my best course of action. The information from the card is to remove the chain that has me enslaved to something relating to the relationship. The reversed position shows that the enslavement comes from perceptions within me, not from without.
Card 5: Lovers (R), represents what I can do to end the enslavement. The Lovers card is always about a choice that has to be made at a fork in the road. I can be in this relationship as I have been in the past or I can take a new course of action. If I do not choose, the choice will be made for me.
Card 6: Ace of Wind, represents the new path in the fork in the road that is open to me. The Ace is a cosmic gift in the form of a seed being planted and Wind is about communication. The reversed position indicates a need to change my “self-speak” and, once the seed gestates, to outwardly resolve what I want to change in this relationship.
Card 7: High Priestess, represents the likely outcome. The card indicates there will be a difference in the relationship because I have used wisdom and intuition to change the nature of our interactions.
Everything comes back to identifying the action each of us can take to create what we want in our lives.
